There comes a time when enough is enough. Some debts cannot be repaid. After my tornado experience there were many that contributed to my recovery, financially and emotionally. Can I repay that? I have tried, and realize that now all I can do is pay it forward. There were some that expected something back and others were there because they wanted to, with no expectation of a return. I am just about free from my own-self imposed expectations on repayment. Thank goodness.
Magical Messages of the fairies. Doreen Virtue
You were probably raised with the same cultural rules as me. Never allow yourself to be beholden at the top. Turn away compliments being another
ReplyDeleteExactly. I knew that I could not say thank you enough and the ones that wrote me notes and enclosed checks I wrote thank you notes back to. There were a few that reminded me how they stepped in and helped. The tornado taught me many things and some of that was letting go. I still struggle with it from time to time.
DeleteMy friend who lost her home and all of its contents (tornado) is going through this exact thing. I think a verbal acknowledgment and a 'pay it forward' attitude is all that is required.
ReplyDeleteIt has taken me a long time to accept that, but like I responded back to Sharyn above, sometimes I still struggle with the need to balance the scales directly.
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